jewel wrote:Dusak I am certain you are a true Pollyanna and " rise above it" to coin just one of the many Pollyanna phrases, however I am not, and am aware that all the happiness and good times in life do not outweigh the bad, and in the end death comes to all. I am a believer in assisted dying, and would happily end it all if I had the means, and the certaintity that it would be as swift and painless as possible, but sadly that is very often not the case, and I couldn't imagine a situation worse than a failed suicide.
I am an advocate of Nembutal being available to those who wish to have it.
I could recommend the book " Better never to have been" by David Benatar
“Each one of us was harmed by being brought into existence. That harm is not negligible, because the quality of even the best lives is very bad—and considerably worse than most people recognize it to be. Although it is obviously too late to prevent our own existence, it is not too late to prevent the existence of future possible people.”
“Finally, the optimist’s impatience with or condemnation of pessimism often has a smug macho tone to it (although males have no monopoly of it). There is a scorn for the perceived weakness of the pessimist who should instead ‘grin and bear it’. This view is defective for the same reason that macho views about other kinds of suffering are defective. It is an indifference to or inappropriate denial of suffering, whether one’s own or that of others. The injunction to ‘look on the bright side’ should be greeted with a large dose of both scepticism and cynicism. To insist that the bright side is always the right side is to put ideology before the evidence. Every cloud, to change metaphors, may have a silver lining, but it may very often be the cloud rather than the lining on which one should focus if one is to avoid being drenched by self-deception. Cheery optimists have a much less realistic view of themselves than do those who are depressed.”
Jewel, I may most of the time give the impression of being a happy go lucky ''Pollyanna'', but believe me, I have experienced periods in my life that I have slummed into the chair, head in hands and wondered if it was all worth it. Not in a fit of depression, but with a deep sense of loss and betrayal, people that you thought you could depend on let you down very badly, desert you in your time of need faster than rats on a sinking ship. I have been through a period in my life that most would of considered ending it all, just to receive release from a most horrendous time when you firmly believed that no one on the planet believed your version of events. But I persevered and finally got the result I rightly deserved. Time is a great healer, and coming to this country was the healing tonic that I required.
Whatever life a person leads, is fully dependent on their own choices, not to the fact that they had been born. Some could of literally had the life beaten out of them in years past, to weak of constitution to recover so carry the pain and hatred tightly sealed within themselves for the rest of their lives. I am lucky for some reason. I soon open my eyes and see how wonderful life can be, you just have to give it the chance it deserves. You have my sympathy, although you would probably refuse it. From what I have witnessed in my past, sympathy is the last thing people like you require. You would have to view the persons whole life to begin to understand it. But I wish you well and hope your dark clouds soon shift.
Life is your's to do with as you wish- do not let other's try to control it for you. Count Dusak- 1345.
Experience is not what happens to you;
